3 Key Secrets to Enthusiastic Sex

I’m going to share 3 key secrets to enthusiastic sex but not before I ask you a very candid question. How frequently do you and your husband have sex? Be honest. No matter what the number is, chances are your husband doesn’t think you have sex often enough. It’s the nature of the beast so to speak but don’t despair! While the husband thinks quantity is quality the truth is you can overcome the numbers game simply by amping up the quality with a little thing called enthusiasm.

1. Be the initiator. As much as the man loves being in hot pursuit, he also enjoys being pursued. Generally speaking, men usually have to make the first move if it’s going to happen at all and secretly they’d love to have this particular table turned on them for a change. The sparkle you get in your eyes when an idea is all your own has a shine that will leave him beaming for days to come. You coming after him tells him, “Yeah, you’ve still got it!”

Enthusiasm moves the world. –Arthur Balfour

2. Give in to those little moments. As women, we tend to have every little detail scheduled and that can steal the joy which comes from spontaneity. When your husband gives you a teasing little kiss that’s just begging for your attention right then and there, you might want to stop what you’re doing and steal that little moment while you can. You don’t know when it will come again. You putting your book aside or stepping away from the riveting interaction of social media online is a form of surrender that tells him, “I’d much rather be with you than anything or anyone else right now.” It’s okay to be reckless with your husband for the sake of intimacy.

If you have zest and enthusiasm you attract zest and enthusiasm. Life does give back in kind. –Norman Vincent Peale

3. Life can be hectic at times, plan for it. Full-time work, children, school and meetings involve a schedule. This part of life requires a schedule, a planner pad, agendas and the works. Somewhere between carpooling and the next whatever, you’ve got to plan for sex in your marriage! It’s not as romantic or whimsical but it sure does give you both something to look forward to. Women have to prepare mentally for sex, men generally do not. Say the word and they’re there. Once you set the plan, use this time to build it up in your mind because the shift from real life to romance is a different process for women. No matter what roadblocks you encounter, have your mind set to relish in the moment, after all, you’ve both taken time out your normally scheduled whatever to just be with one another. ¬†Give yourself permission to enjoy the plan and grab that planner when it’s all said and done because you know you’ll both be thinking, “When can we do this again?”

Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great was ever achieved. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

As with anything in life, there are seasons. If you’re recovering from some major something, opt for some appropriate form of intimacy and deem it your mutual idea of enthusiastic sex for the moment. The point is don’t lose your connection from your husband all together. It’s a proven fact that the longer a woman goes without sexual activity the less she misses it. Sex drive changes for both the husband and the wife throughout various seasons of life, find the trade offs and compromises to get you through those times. You may find yourselves sitting on the swing on the front porch one evening holding ¬†hands and this is your contentment. Until that time comes, be willing to communicate your needs and find ways to make it work for both of you.

Now my challenge to you is to pick one of these 3 key secrets to enthusiastic sex with your husband and report back in the Facebook community Sunshine Soul Sisters with one of three comments, no details:

  • I made a move to first.
  • I slid into second.
  • Third time was a charm.

Until next time, I encourage you to keep letting your light shine and aim for enthusiastic sex in your marriage!